6 and 4. My husband left me for a work colleague.
I get two nights a week but these are always different as my ex works shifts so it is impossible to organise anything regular and I find that very difficult. My children are still young so I am just putting my energy into them and getting out and about with them. It took me a couple of years to accept my situation but now that I have accepted that this is the way it is, I’m determined to make the best of it.
I do have a boyfriend who I met a year after my ex and I split. He was someone I’d known for a long time but lost contact with so I think it helped a lot that I already knew him. I was in a state of shock and panic for the first year after my ex left and I dated a lot when the kids were at their dad’s. I met people from online dating sites but this was really unhealthy (desperate) behaviour and I certainly wouldn’t recommend it.
Get out with your kids, there are plenty of single parents out there. Get happy within yourself, be open and friendly and I think it shouldn’t be too hard to meet someone. I personally wouldn’t recommend internet dating although it did ease the loneliness for me, however I think just getting out to as many things as possible, dressing to impress and being happy is the best way to meet people.
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